An anniversary is a time to reflect on the good times, the support you give each other through the challenges and to look ahead to create new dreams together. Marriage is hard work just as all friendships are.
Today marks our 26th wedding anniversary. So, why are we still together? Hmmm, yes why ?? 🙂 I’m not going to say we are lucky.
The marriage isn’t perfect but it’s happy. We have had difficulties, but through everything I think the important thing has been there is a sense of ‘us’, not just ‘you and me’.
We accept imperfections – though his list is WAY longer than mine of course! 🙂 I must admit he hid them well in our initial years.
We still laugh together (though my jokes are definitely funnier).
We share the workload. Yes, (his tasks) washing ironing, pool upkeep, filing the cars with petrol, garbage bins and gardening is a lot less than (my tasks) making lunches, cooking dinner, (and in years gone by driving the kids to school, sport etc) ,cleaning the home, looking after pets but I’m more organised in the ‘smarter not harder’ thought and so my chores leave me with ‘me’ time long before he finishes off .
We both had the same ideas about child rearing methods. When the kids were growing up we shared care, love and fun with them. We both had the same wants and dreams for them. We never played each other off as good parent / bad parent (though of course I was the BEST parent). Much of our life together has been as parents. It is now we have moved onto being just us now. We were lucky to find out the kids weren’t holding us together.
We make time for each other. Even from when the kids were little with limited funds and limited opportunities to go out without the children (we actually loved having the kids with us) we were creative with time. We had ‘supper dates’ on Friday nights – food snacks and dvds once the kids were in bed. Now our Friday food snacks are much larger (as are we ) and we don’t have to wait for the kids to be in bed cause now they are off doing their own Friday night thing.
By doing these things we are showing each other
– 3 essential things to a good marriage in my opinion.