I was out at dinner the other night with some girlfriends, karaoking without a jukebox and generally having a lot of laughs. One of us began being a little more serious and posed the question …what would you do if if you didn’t work ?
We all began setting boundaries…
Would we be able to choose a new job?
Would we have unlimited funds?
Would we be living where we do now?
Would we have enough money to eat?
I pondered on the idea just now ( weird thoughts come to me at strange hours of the day ).
Rather than what we would do, I began to think it would turn into “who are you if you are no longer categorised by a job ( and that job must be a recognised employment form)? ”
Why is I that amongst a gathering of new acquaintances people more often than not, lead in with the “What do you do? ” question. Are they looking to stereotype you and need this information to do it? Does your employment say that much about the person you are and how interesting the conversation will be with you and the possible friendship that might follow?
I am guilty of having lead many along the garden path with a variety of occupations. Experience tells me most people are happy with that. But, sometimes I have been known to reply such things …
I do as little as I possibly can.
Or, I’ll ask for clarification such as ” What do I do …
in the early hours of the morning?
when I forget the shopping list and I’m doing my weekly grocery shop?
on a bad hair day?
This tends to stop people in their tracks. Surely the reality is my responses here will tell them infinitely more than if I label my “do” by my employment! For, even within my employment it’s the inner characteristics of me that dictate how I perform that job. And, if I don’t have employment , have I nothing to add to the conversation ?
We all ‘do’ something and by perhaps asking better questions a much more interesting conversation can happen . That next social gathering may turn into better time. We are so much more than our ‘do’.
I’m glad you are reading my blog, learning a little about me so, let me get to know you a bit better. What is it that YOU do and I don’t want to see a single employment listed. Tell me instead one great thing about you :)) . Looking forward to your comments here.